Mom befriends a semipro football player on the playground
- I am a mother of a 6-year-old and a toddler, and at 46, I do not enjoy working.
- Recently I befriended a semipro football player on a playground.
- Our lives are completely different, but we enjoy each other’s company while our kids play.
Just as my son excitedly picked up the pace, a beautiful, energetic 3-year-old came running, eager to run. His caretaker was a few steps behind him when he called his name.
“Let me push,” he said, balancing me on one leg in a “Karate Kid”-esque pose while holding a child to move park toys.
We started chatting, and I found out he was a stay-at-home dad whose partner worked in administration Private school. We talked about this and that, as parents often do on the playground while their children play.
What we found was the polar opposite
In this situation, the parents feel each other out verbally — almost like a soft interview to see if we can be friends. Sometimes I don’t want to make friends, but most of the time the Gemini Dragon in me can’t help it; I only want to be loved.
It’s not like dating, when you’re considering the pros and cons of a friendship with your child’s potential long-term playmate, you’re also considering them for your partner.
While we were chatting, the topic of health came up. We talked about getting in shape and nutrition — which is weird, because she was slim and fit and I was three months postpartum with diastasis recti, a condition where your abdominal muscles separate after birth, leaving behind stubborn belly fat and a “pooch.” leading to Can be difficult to get rid of.
Between telling our kids to “put down the old candy wrappers” and “use only nice hands, please,” we managed to have some sort of conversation, and I learned that he was a semipro football player.
That was interesting to me — I like to know people’s stories, but also, when does a regular 46-year-old mom rub shoulders with a 24-year-old soccer player on the playground?
He told me his story: He didn’t take football that seriously when he was in high school, even though he was good at it and it could get him somewhere, and now he’s trying to reconnect. His dream.
we became friends
We talked about the benefits of beets and other health tips and we bonded. We made plans for play dates and told each other where we lived and about our partners, if they ever met.
Meanwhile, her 3-year-old and my 6-year-old became best friends the moment they laid eyes on each other. They were attracted to each other’s high energy and willingness to chase the other everywhere. They laughed and squealed with delight at every little thing. With almost no words, they are as close as can be.
I’d rather sit at my backyard patio table and write, my friend would love to slam with other grown men and catch and pass a football. He told me that he works out every day and is working to bulk up, whereas I try to work out as little as possible but dream big to bulk down. My favorite exercise is walking, while hers is running. Somehow, it works.
If you find yourself looking for a friend, I suggest looking where you expect to find them — they’re always there.
Jessica Delfino is a multi-hyphenate creative. She is a showrunner, a creative lead, a social-media content creator, a mom and the host of “The Mom Report” on Pocono 96.7 FM.
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